And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18)
The Hebrew phrase translated as “helper comparable to him” is עזר כנגדו ezer k’negedo. Translated literally, this would be rendered as “a helper like his opposite” or “a helper who opposes him.”
Even though husband and wife are designed to be “one flesh,” we understand that men and women are quite different. In fact, God made man and woman quite different on purpose. He determined that each should have their own unique strengths and weaknesses and that each could only be complete when they were joined to their opposite.
Where women are concerned, the text seems to imply that one of the woman’s main functions is to help the man and that would include, when need be, opposing him. That is not to say she is to undermine his position and authority as priest of the home. It is suggesting that when he is not behaving as head and priest of the home, the woman is authorized to “oppose” him, thus provoking him to function in his God-ordained purpose. In this manner, she helps the man become what he is supposed to be and, consequently, betters herself.
As God’s people it has always been important that man and wife function in the manner the Creator intended. I dare say that, in this day and age, it is critical — for us, our children and their children — to exhibit Godly principles in our marriages. Men: be the priests of the home. Ladies: when he’s not being the priest of the home, remind him in a righteous manner that it is his duty to do this. When we all function in our purpose, we will all benefit and be blessed.
Blessings and Shalom,